The next time you are inclined to seek scapegoats, stupid slogans, and simplistic “solutions” for complex educational issues, please keep this fact in mind: Schools and teachers, both individually and collectively, are not the problem.
Now, I may be preaching to the choir on a blog dedicated to educators and parents, but sometimes we too need to see past the rhetoric and remember that schools and teachers are the crucial components in ensuring that every single child, regardless of their challenges or charms, receives the appropriate nurture and education necessary to become capable, conscientious, contented adults.
On the other hand, I may be striking a nerve of some with my purposely provocative title. Please first hear me out, and see if in the end any disagreements you may have with this article and its title are more about semantics than substance.
If you are seeking blame for why too many kids face more obstacles than opportunities, you must look far beyond the schoolhouse door. The real culprits in the often intentional corrupting of kids and the tarnishing of their once-bright futures are likely to be political paternalism, poverty, the systematic undermining of public schools, and an omnipresent media that glamorizes and normalizes violence, materialism, narcissism, hypersexulaity, and anti-intellectualism.
Our schools are actually one of the few places that continuously strive to counter all that external negativity and neglect. They should be the havens where every student finds an abundance of sensitivity and support, passion and purpose, as well as scholarship and success.
Schools and individual teachers can frequently do a better job at all of this, but they are too often distracted by, reacting to, and trying their best to remedy factors not of their making and not wholly within their control. Words matter, and referring to our schools as incarceration factories has less to do with child advocacy and more to do with the ongoing attempts to dismantle public education by privatizing and profiting off of our youth.
The Loop of Low Performance
Too many schools, especially those with a majority of students who have the greatest needs and struggles, are forced to cope with paltry resources, crumbling facilities, outdated equipment, a disproportionate amount of inexperienced administrators and teachers, misguided mandates, scripted and stifling instructional programs, and unconscionable adult-to-child ratios.
Ironically, these are also the schools that are saddled with all the “accountability” yet are expected make miracles amidst scrutiny and sanctions that neither address the real issues at the individual school site nor the comprehensive needs of all children.
As a result, the vast majority of committed, compassionate, and highly capable teachers who choose to work at the lowest-performing schools are too often constricted and criticized for their noble efforts with the kids who happen to need them the most. Being chronically hamstrung and harangued does not allow these talented teachers to be their best and certainly prevents them from fully moving their students forward in the ways they need most.
How We Keep Failing Kids with Improper Leadership
Obviously, one-size-fits-all school policies of zero tolerance and an obsession with test scores have failed kids. Also, any time compliance takes precedence over common sense and compassion, kids suffer.
Habitually leaping to negative consequences is never a wise leadership approach, not in a school, not in a society, and not in a home. In addition, neglecting to attend to the whole child never meets the full needs of a kid who is crying out– sometimes silently and sometimes stridently– for adult empathy and support.
So, are we seeking slogans and scapegoats or real solutions?
How many school police offers, campus security personnel, and deans of discipline have been replaced with trained counselors, licensed therapists, and full time, on-site psychologists?
How many detention and referral rooms and metal detectors have been replaced with green spaces, gardens, art galleries, makerspaces, performance spaces, clubrooms, heath and wellness clinics, and thriving parent centers?
Does every school offer a wealth of intriguing, hands-on electives, where every student has a real choice in what they want to explore and create?
Instead of bemoaning the current pipeline, what pipeline have we built to replace the old one?
Or, in the furious scramble for change for change’s sake, have we thrown the baby out with the bathwater and merely cleansed the data by forbidding essentially all suspensions and expulsions? Haven’t we now swung from zero tolerance to a de facto acceptance of all but the most egregious student behaviors? And isn’t blanket dispensation and turning a blind eye just another form of a one-size-fits-all approach to student discipline that got us into this mess in the first place?
Has anyone studied how a virtually consequence-free campus influences the self-regulation of both its most notorious and noble students? What does abdicating our adult authority and eliminating every instance of childhood accountability actually do to kids today, both in the long and the short run?
Exactly when did the adult who issued a fitting consequence to a child become more maligned or more suspect than the child who committed the offense in the first place? Isn’t it an adult’s duty to enforce rules and to ensure respect for all?
Try asking the teachers at the hardest-to-staff schools if they feel like their health (both physical and mental) and livelihood are in serious jeopardy on a daily basis. Ask them if they fear being thrown under the bus by being accused of instigating or escalating a situation while in the midst of earnestly trying to educate and inspire kids they truly care about. Ask them if they fear being deemed guilty until proven innocent, and even then the stain on their reputation and psyche will be so great that their once-beloved career is all but ruined.
And try asking students what it feels like to have their education highjacked by a handful of students who wantonly and routinely disrupt the learning process, while their teacher seems powerless to make it stop. And while you are at it, ask that rebellious, recalcitrant group of students how it really feels to steal the education of others, while simultaneously squandering their own.
And don’t be surprised if you are initially met with a wall of insolence or silence from these students because years of neglect, dysfunction, and hurt are not going to be revealed or overcome with one instance of compassion. Complex, chronic problems do not respond to quick fixes; these walls must be carefully refashioned into bridges, brick by brick.
The Problem with Leaping to Polar Opposites
Especially when educators themselves are hotly debating the legitimacy of such school staples like deadlines and homework, direct instruction and textbooks, assigned seats and traditional classroom furniture, as well as zeros and even academic grades, is it any wonder that kids today experience an unprecedented amount of entitlement on their part and continual yielding on the part of the significant adults in their lives?
When something is not working as well as before, when something needs tweaking or reevaluation, when something has gotten out of hand, or when something is not serving the current needs of kids, society in general (and parents and educators in particular) tend to demonize and then demand a dismantling of the entire affair. Some act as if what parents and teachers have been doing for at least the last century was not only completely counterproductive, it was patently immoral and plain old idiotic.
Of course, acting like a dinosaur, a dilettante, or a daredevil are all idiotic when it comes to serving the essential, immutable needs of kids. Therefore, frequent reflection, reassessment, and reworking are all good things– as long as they are done with reason, measure, and grace.
But if what we are actually doing is scrambling for change for change’s sake and seeking another sweeping swing of the pendulum, we best realize that merely doing the polar opposite of something that actually only needs some adjusting never ever works.
If we are also simply placating kids and indulging what is easiest for and most alluring to them in the moment instead of demanding and developing what is best for them in the long run, we adults better do some soul searching before we shortchange the next generation of kids.
A Pipeline of Progress and Promise
Even at the height of zero-tolerance educational policies, I have interpreted the claims of a school-to-prison pipeline as far more scurrilous and ultimately undermining than truly helpful or genuinely sensitive. But I suspect the real motives of many who wield such an insolent indictment to be intentionally defamatory and sabotaging.
Schools, and especially teachers, do not out of sheer neglect or outright malice turn an otherwise stellar student into a hardened criminal. By the same token, teachers do not purposely take at-risk youth and push them over the edge. The problems are too varied and complex to simply blame it all on the education system.
Absent, ill prepared, or overwhelmed parents often play a part in the unintentional thwarting of our youth. And despite all of the mostly misguided efforts to remedy the situation, there also still exist too many absent, ill prepared, or overwhelmed teachers who either are not part of the solution or who exacerbate an already out of control situation.
At best, most secondary teachers get 150 total hours in an single school year to educate and nurture each of their 150 (or more) precious students. Compare that amount of influence to a parent who has had ten or sixteen years to develop their child’s self-control, self-confidence, self-expression, and self-efficacy. It is clear that many parents need more help, but where is the system of parent professional development? What about that pipeline?
Yet the entire focus of this series of articles on strong adult leadership has not been to at all point fingers and to cast blame but to instead offer practical solutions and fresh perspectives that bring parents and teachers together, rather than pitting them against each other. I am certain that there exists a great capacity in every teacher and parent to motivate every child to act positively and productively.
For it is within this continuous, eminently achievable self-reflection and self-improvement, augmented by reliable support systems for adult and child alike, that resides our greatest potential, as well as our greatest call to action. And it is upon sensible solutions that include all stakeholders where we should collectively focus our energy and resources, not upon sanctions, slander, and lawsuits that only address symptoms, rather than root causes.
Notwithstanding whatever legitimate reasons or lame excuses that are offered, if parents and teachers are not supplying all children with the proper leadership, love, laughter, and learning that kids both need and deserve, there will continue to be an unacceptable amount of children who fall through the cracks. And even one child who is fundamentally and chronically underserved or ignored, both at home and at school, is unacceptable.
The overuse of extreme tactics such as corporal punishment, citations, handcuffs, suspensions, expulsions, and juvenile detention, especially upon our most vulnerable youth, helped support the prison pipeline panic. Restorative justice and peer mediation are steps in the right direction, but they are not in themselves suitable substitutes for strong adult leadership.
When will we finally realize that what kids needed all along was firmness and leadership mixed with equal parts fairness and love, fascination and laughter, as well as facilitation and learning?
The Four Ways We Show Kids We Care
Standing up for kids sometimes entails standing up to them. Love and fairness are not the only ways adults support and show children we care about them. Laughing with them as they are engaged in some fascinating task also evokes closeness and caring. Equally as impactful, facilitating a child’s learning definitely shows we want them to grow and succeed.
And firm leadership—at times resolute, resounding, or “rough”—is but one more way of proving to kids that we care about their conduct and attitude. In fact, we care so much that we will ensure every child acts in the best interests of all involved– up until the time that those children can provide us with the long-sought-after reassurance that they can do so for themselves.
How do you include leadership in the ways you interact with your children or students? How does that adult leadership actually enhance the flow of love, laughter, and learning in your home or classroom?
Please share your insights, opinions, and experiences in the comments section below. Whether or not you are still wed to the notion of a school-to-prison pipeline, let’s move the conversation forward, especially focusing on what you have personally done to be part of the solution.
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